Thursday Thoughts:The Balancing Act

With every passing day, I am more and more convinced that having someone help you organise/structure your wedding is a MUST! Saves you from graying early in life (especially right before your wedding!) and imagine how cool it is just to tell someone what you want your wedding to look like but not actually doing all the mad organising yourself? Yes please,I would be very happy if you would design and install my wedding for me. Interesting choice of words these are- wedding designers and installers, don’t you think? But that is what Badhaiyan says they do for you -they design and install your wedding. Interestingly apt but very unusual. I like! 

A couple (of many) months ago Kanika contacted us and said she would love to be a part of our Thursday Thought section and we of course were equally in love with the idea- so here it is- her first guest post on Thursday Thoughts. Hope she keeps coming back and telling us how to design and install weddings to make them a time to remember!

The Balancing Act

Performed by ‘Badhaiyan

A balanced life- work life , eating a balanced diet, balancing steps as we walk and above all balancing relationships to live with love, interdependence, peace and harmony.

Isn’t life all about balance?


This ‘B’ word really seems to be preceding all other letters and is taking over to become the first letter of the alphabet of life.  As we grow and evolve, we leave one phase of our lives behind to enter a new one.  And one day we hit the phase that marks a significant era in our lives. The single identity that we are suddenly merges with multiple others as a few hours of pious chants over a havan kund, a holy book or other symbols of faith come to resounding close. Suddenly it’s bells ringing within the soul and outside.  Yes! The peal of wedding bells prevails forever in our hearts and The ‘BIG B’ rules forever in our lives from this moment on.

Before this happy moment, before the vigor, color and festivities spread over a minimum of three days, however comes in a lot of activity, preparation, and yes, you have it-a lot of imbalance. Imbalance of mind, hearts, thought processes, generation gaps, multiple individuals with different tastes- you name it!


The bride wants it “grand” and the father says “budget mein rakho”(stay in the budget), the disparity between parents and the bride and groom in the definition and intensity of “close relatives & friends” for the final guest list. Till the day of the wedding, there exists a never ending quarrel between the mum and daughter on her little girls overall look; lehenga from chandni chowk vs. one from a couture designer? Sarees from Ram Chandra Kishan Chandra or from Ushnakmal? The newer generation wants to glamorize the sangeet with bollywood stars while the buas, taee ji, masis and the grand mothers want to put  their best foot forth and give a traditional tadka to the ‘ladies sangeet’.  The ‘Youngsters party’ of course is unnecessary show – sha baazi and a NO-NO for the elders of the house.  The  mammoth debates over caterers, menus , beverage lists and  alcohol or no alcohol on the main wedding day function remains far from sorted for a long time.  Mayhem in the family but deep within, each one only has one common goal.  Age and varied exposures form layers of aspirations. However, at the core, everyone in the family wants the entire wedding ensemble to be elucidating great values and one that is beautiful at all levels.

Once the bride and groom have agreed as have the parents and the date is set, the ‘Badhaiyaan’ wedding designing team treads in to do ‘The balancing Act’. From being sounding boards to the bride and grooms parents, counselors and best buddies to the couple getting married and a punching bag for the relatives, the  ‘Badhaiyaan’  clan becomes an integral part of the extremely emotional journey with the family.  From setting the tone of the big day with ‘please block your calendar ‘ requests to closing in on the invitation cards, wedding favors , themes and finally until the couple steps into their stylized ‘JUST MARRIED’ vehicle of  a new beginning, our craft & creativity makes the most important bandhan of your life easy, stress free, enjoyable, economical and extremely memorable!


Looking for someone to make the wedding a fun, talked – about event, call Neha on +9899903415 or Kanika on +9899137109 or email us on & we’ll be there for you !

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